6 lessons a younger self needs? 6 things we aspire to know? It’s no secret that with age comes so much of wisdom. Sometimes it could even be the wisdom we never thought we needed, until it becomes relevant! Being younger, we are faced with so many challenges and we often wish we handled it differently. Everything happens according to a certain life plan. You may think you needed to know something before actually letting it happen, but knowing and doing are two very separate things!
We all wish we knew certain things when we were teenagers or in our early 20s that we know now! Well we cannot turn back the clock, but we can surely help others learn from our wisdom. Here are 6 things I wish my younger self knew!
1. You are More Than Enough!
You are more than enough. Worthy of only the very best! In life, you are going to meet people who might not see your worth and that is okay. It is not your fault. That is their loss. You are not for everyone so don’t beat yourself up about what others say. Do not allow anyone to treat you as less than what you deserve. We are all worthy of amazing things, yet we are not aware of it. It takes a certain amount of love and knowledge to know your worth. Trust me, whoever does not see your worth is not a loss. You are ENOUGH for the right people that enter your life.
2. Not all Relationships or Friendships are worth keeping
In life, you are going to meet so many people. Breaking ties are inevitable. Life changes. People change. Don’t hold onto memories and shared wisdom over years of friendship or relationships. Sometimes breaking away from people is good. We need the break. We need a new sense of environment and human surroundings. Being with the same people that are stagnant in their own life can cause you to be stagnant in yours!
3. “It’s okay to not be okay”
There are so many people who hide their fears, feelings and even mental health issues. People fear seeming weird or a “debby downer” by sharing their stories. It is okay to share how you feel. It is okay to not always be okay. You cannot always live happily, life has its ups and downs. If you’re not having ups and downs, are you even alive? Those moments make us stronger and being vulnerable is not a weakness. It is a step towards growth and strength.
4. Nobody else’s opinion matters except your own!
“What will she say?”, “Everyone is going to talk about it”. Sounds familiar right? But who cares??? Will those same people be by your side in 10 years time? Are they worth listening too? What if Oprah believed people who told her she wasn’t good enough for television? Exactly! Opinions mean absolutely nothing, how you respond to them means everything. People will talk about you until the day you die.
5. Do not ever stop dreaming
Dreaming brings about a world of passion and self-interest! Dare to dream? I think so! Dreaming allows you to tap into your creative side. People are often so scared to dream because they are told that they would never reach that goal. Don’t allow that to be you. When we are kids, we dream an entire world of opportunities, but as we get older dreams tend to get shorter and less innovative. Dreams become scenarios and people. Dreams become blank and sometimes there aren’t any at all. Why? Because we tell ourselves that dreams mean nothing when in fact dreams mean everything!
6. Report Cards / Marks do not determine your worth
We live in a world where you are not able to live a comfortable life without qualifications. A world where having a higher percentage is valued more than having the skill and relentless ambition! People are obsessed with numbers than influence. Impacting is nothing without the statistics behind it. The world works towards numbers. Statistics. Calculations. Your worth is more than a percentage on a test, exam or end of year report. Those who have made the biggest impact in the world, have failed towards the necessary numbers needed in education.