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How To Deal With Stalkers

Stalking is creepy. From bullying to terrorizing to eve-teasing, stalking can have adverse effects on the victim.

If you are being stalked, or know someone who is being stalked, do not take it lightly. It may grow up to become a heinous crime. In such cases, follow these imperative measures to deal with stalkers in the crux of time.

Inform Someone

Keep a trustworthy person involved and informed

Keep someone informed about it, either a friend or family. If you know the stalker, immediately stop all communication. If the stalker is a stranger or an acquaintance, try getting in touch with a mutual acquaintance to seek help. In any case, keep a trustworthy person involved and informed of every activity. Always remember, one person alone can never intelligently deal with stalkers.

Gather Information

Keep all records of communication with the stalker ready and safe. Messages, emails, letters, should be kept as is, and untampered. Keep phone-call records safe. It is mandatory to have a call-recording software or application installed on your phone so that all your calls are captured. This will help a lot, in case, it progresses into a police case.

Stay Away From Strangers

Staying away from strangers is one of the best ways to deal with stalkers

It is only obvious that when you end all communication, the stalker might try to reach out to you through a third party. Strangers trying to get friendly by asking for information should be considered distrustful. Keep your guards up and make note of anything fishy happening around you. Staying away from new acquaintances is one of the best ways to deal with stalkers.

Do Not Venture Out Till Late

Keeping yourself safe should top your list. Partying or working till late in the nights should be avoided. If these can’t be avoided, make sure you have company with you. Also, in such cases, see if you can have your own vehicle to travel or a friend dropping you and avoid public transport. Late night excursions should be made with a group of friends or family.

Report To The Police

Stalking is a crime. Immediately report the matter to the police.

There are cases when the stalker starts to threaten you or your family. This should be the end of all patience and suffering. Stalking is a crime. Immediately report the matter to the police. Bring in all the related correspondences and materials that support the case. Present the absolute truth leaving no loose ends. Eventually, it may proceed to become a court case and you do not want to be the person who caused unnecessary trouble by concealing details.

Most of us, especially women, try and suppress the matter thinking a quit-communication strategy would bring an end to the ordeal. But that is only a fool’s doing. Be smart and vigilant and use these steps to deal with stalkers.

20 Times Lisa Kudrow Slayed It With Her Dialogues In F.R.I.E.N.D.S.

As weird as the character Pheobe Buffay is, we all love her nonetheless. Her zest for life and looking at everything the ‘pheobe’ way is what gave us many life lessons unknowingly. The show went off air 14 years back yet till date you can’t resist clapping along with the song, “your job’s a joke, you’re broke and your love life’s DOA“, and relate to it pretty hardcore too! Today, on Lisa Kudrow’s 55th birthday, let’s look at all the amazing dialogues of her most famous character from a dearly beloved show, F.R.I.E.N.D.S.

1) Tag Jones: “Phoebe. That’s a great name.”
Phoebe: “Oh, you like that? You should hear my phone number.”

2) “I’m a lady, Monica. I don’t kiss and tell. But this hickey speaks for itself.”

3) On gravity: “It’s not so much that, you know, like, I don’t believe in it, you know. It’s just – I don’t know, lately, I get the feeling that I’m not so much being pulled down as I am being pushed.”

4) On her name: “Phoebe: That’s ‘p’ as in ‘Phoebe,’ ‘h’ as in ‘heobe,’ ‘o’ as in ‘oebe,’ ‘e’ as in ‘ebe,’ ‘b’ as in ‘bebe’ and ‘e’ as in ’ello there, mate.’ ”

5) Singing: “Smelly cat, smelly cat, what are they feeding you? / Smelly cat, smelly cat, it’s not your fault.”

6) Ross, doing a crossword puzzle: “Heating device.”
Phoebe: “Radiator.”
Ross: “Five letters.”
Phoebe: “Rdatr.”

7) Rachel: “Does this look like something the girlfriend of a paleontologist would wear?
Phoebe: “I don’t know, you might be the first one.”

8) To Monica, on their catering business: “You’re the cook! Without you, it’s just me driving up to people’s houses with empty trays and asking for money.”

9) “I’m sorry I won’t be able to make it to your imaginary wedding, but I’m really busy that day. I already have a unicorn baptism and a leprechaun bar mitzvah.”

10) “I just realized something. ‘Joker’ is ‘poker’ with a ‘j.’ Coincidence?”

11) MY PERSONAL FAVORITE – In her wedding vows to Mike: “When I was growing up, I didn’t have a normal mom and dad or a regular family like everybody else. And I always knew that something was missing. But now I’m standing here today knowing that I have everything I’m ever gonna need. You are my family.”

12) “Well if she isn’t (dead), cremating her was a big mistake.”

13) “Didn’t you ever run so fast you thought your legs were gonna fall off, you know, like when you were running toward the swings or running away from Satan?”

14) Phoebe: “Something just brushed up against my right leg.”
Monica: “What is it?”
Phoebe: “Oh, it’s OK. It was just my left leg.”

15) “She’s your lobster. C’mon, you guys. It’s a known fact that lobsters fall in love and mate for life. You can actually see old lobster couples walking around their tank, you know, holding claws.”

16) “They don’t know that we know they know we know.”

17) On Christmas trees: “I am against innocent trees being cut down in their prime and their corpses grotesquely dressed in, like, tinsel and twinkly lights.”

18) Phoebe: “I’m always right about these things.”

19) Rachel: “No, you’re not. Last week you thought Ross was trying to kill you.”
Phoebe: “Well, I’m sorry, but it’s hard to believe that someone would tell a story that dull just to tell it.”
On baby names: “If it’s a girl, Phoebe, naturally. And if it’s a boy, Phoebe.”

20) “I’m, like, playing the field. You know, juggling two guys, sowing my wild oats. I’m like this oat-sowing, field-playing juggler.”

Happy Birthday Lisa Kudrow <3

Eternal Platinum As A Gift To Cherish

At some point in her life, every girl dreams of having that special man who takes care of her and pampers her. As soon as that happens, she knows she has someone to call her own for a lifetime. Love is a special journey that two people embark on and promise to walk together for eternity. It is a feeling out of this world that actually makes you learn what butterflies in stomach and violins in the air are! However, with hectic work schedules and busy lifestyles, your love life is sure to take a backseat and work becomes priority. Walk that extra kilometre to bring in some sunshine and celebrate the man you are head-over-heels in love with, starting right away. Try and make a usual day into an extraordinary one with a meaningful gesture, a cute promise or a valuable and memorable gift that marks the beginning of a journey of a lifetime. So how do you plan to celebrate your day of love? What we opine is that it shouldn’t as dry and cold as every other day you spend with your beloved. That won’t help you discover what everlasting love is like. A candle-lit dinner or a surprise getaway are too old school and may sound like fantastic ideas, but hold on… they are nothing what most people do now. Dinners and visits to unusual places is very common. Do something that sweeps her off her feet. We say go out of your way by investing in a gift for that special person in your life as the amount you would splurge in for a lavish dinner, with same you can bring a smile onto her face that would always stay affixed. A gift that will remind you of your day of love and probably last lifelong. Be it the day of your proposal, your engagement ceremony or a wedding anniversary, there’s no better way to celebrate these very special days than with a valuable gift like eternal platinum jewellery. As eternal love deserves something that is unforgettable and stays with you forever hence, what could be better than platinum. Platinum jewellery has always been a favourite pick for the ones who enjoy flaunting the very best. And we believe as a rare and precious white metal, platinum has lived up to its stature in every way. Right from top notch celebrities from Bollywood to Hollywood, all have brick-walled their life-long relationships with this wonder metal. Be it love bands or pendants and even neck pieces and bracelets; pamper your love with something that will be eternally precious – platinum jewellery. After all, what better way to commemorate your timeless love than with an enduring and everlasting metal that promises to always take you back on the journey of your relationship and make you live your memories whenever you want to. The essence of your love will always linger with between you two and will never decay.

Stalking Your Boyfriend Like A Pro!

Remember the time when breakups were easy, when you never had to see that person ever again. When there was no high-tech way of keeping a tab on that person, and even if you heard through the gossip in town that he had a new girlfriend or wife, you could make it through life without viewing 50 photos of the girlfriend (who we hate already) and knowing glowing skin exists outside of a skincare commercial. Gone are those days. Nowadays it is pretty much possible to locate and stalk every boyfriend you’ve had since high school. The following is a list of apps that will make it super easy to snoop on your current or ex-boyfriend. Stalking your boyfriend has never been this easy!

Also Read: 9 Ways To Maintain A Healthy Relationship With Your Ex

mCouple

“mCouple” can be installed secretly on your partner’s phone without appearing in their app list. It shows virtually everything a user does – from Facebook messages to GPS coordinates – without your boyfriend ever knowing.

Instagram

An application that just gives you pictures along with as little words as possible.
What could that picture of him with that girl with the caption “CRAZIEST NIGHT EVER” mean?
We all know the basics of snooping on Instagram by checking your S.O’s timestamps and location. Another way is to slide the tab from ‘You’ to ‘Following’ and see whose pictures your S.O liked and when. As if this wasn’t enough, there is ‘Instasnoop’ that kicks things up a notch.

Instasnoop gets admittedly creepy with its zoom feature and ability to view mutual follows and be alerted to those who don’t follow you back. It really takes it up a notch with the option to create a snooplist of people you don’t follow but want to check up on.

Truecaller

It’s not just an app that helps you identify your caller, it does more than that. Truecaller lets you see the last time your boyfriend used their phone or was active on their phone (measures any cellular activity). It also shows if the other person is on another call without calling him/her and seeming stalker-ish or over possessive.

Facebook

Unless you’ve been blocked, you can see your boyfriend’s last seen on ‘messenger’, and the best part is there is no way of hiding that. If you and your boyfriend use the same computer, you can check the archives for all of his deleted messages that he thought he could get away with.

mSpy

The ultimate stalking app lets you track every detail on the S.O’s phone. Tracking includes GPS location, web history, images, videos, email, SMS, Skype, WhatsApp and much more. The tracked data can be accessed through your mSpy account.

And he thought he could get away with lying, we’ve got tools too! 😉
Jokes apart, ladies, if you feel the need to use any of the above tools, it’s time to reconsider your relationship!

Also Read: How To Deal With Stalkers

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9 Types of Guys You Meet In A Bar

Ladies, we spend hours to get ready and go to the club expecting to have a good time. Clubs and pubs are an all-time place to pick up girls, and hence we’re approached by all kinds of guys! Most of them give us an amusing experience worth telling our ‘Squad’.

1. The Cheesy guy:

“What does it feel like to be one of the most beautiful girl in the room?”
As much as we love compliments, we know that you’ve been using this line on every girl you meet. These guys walk up with the most-clichéd lines and expect them to work.

2. The Drunk guy:

These kind of guys have had too much to drink and keep toppling over everywhere. They might be drinking hoping to gather some courage to approach a girl, but it ends up working for only few of them.

3. The Hot guy:

Be it the foreigner, or the guy standing in the corner, there is at least one eye candy all the girls cannot get enough of. These HOT guys mostly walk in with their girlfriends or their group of friends, basically=Unavailable!

4. Guys who walk in packs:

These guys always come in together and stick together. One of them approaches one of the girls who’s with her friends, once he’s in the circle, and dancing with the girl and her friends, his friends smoothly swoop in and join them.

5. The Loner:

The guy who’s standing in a corner and drinking by himself just scanning the room or staring at someone. Just looking, no approaching. These are the guys you find creepy and avoid, or end up feeling bad for because they have a face that says “I’m sad, please come talk to me!”

6. The Rich guy:

Mostly surrounded by girls, this guy is always found in VIP areas buying girls expensive drinks and on the lookout for a new prey. He seems to have a flashy lifestyle and makes sure everyone knows how large his wallet is.

7. The Horny guy:

Desperate? Yes! He has only one motive and that is to get laid, and he will do anything to achieve it.

8. The Old Guy:

The one guy who’s guaranteed to fail landing up a girl. He knows he’s out of his comfort zone and tries to fit in by using the hipster language and dressing up younger than his age.

9. The Charmer:

This guy might not be the most good looking guy in the club, but he knows what to say when. Such guys dazzle you with their charismatic personality and charm you with stimulating conversations!

So guys, please take note, if you fall under any of the categories mentioned above(except for #9), we’ve done our research, and we ain’t falling for you! 😛

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10 Most Romantic Songs To Make Your Valentine’s Day More Special

It’s Valentine’s Day and so you must be planning a special night for your better half. May it be a dinner date or a long drive off a shore, in any case you’ll be needing the most romantic songs to set the right mood and get things going. Check out the best love songs below to create the perfect playlist for you valentine.

1) Christina Perri – A Thousand Years

This song by American singer-songwriter Christina Perri and David Hodges is taken from the album The Twilight Saga: Breaking Dawn — Part 1 and is loved by almost every woman on earth.

2) Elvis Presley – Can’t Help Falling In Love

This one is a pop ballad originally recorded by American singer Elvis Presley. The melody is based on “Plaisir d’amour“, a popular romance by Jean-Paul-Égide Martini (1784), and will surely take your back in the 70s and 80s.

3) Sam Smith – How Will I Know

Sam Smith’s soothing voice is always a win for romance. His slowed- down rendition of ‘How Will I Know‘ by Whitney Houston is truly beautiful.

4) Adam Levine – Lost Stars

“Lost Stars” is an original song performed by Maroon 5 frontman Adam Levine for the romantic comedy-drama film Begin Again.

5) Ed Sheeran – Thinking Out Loud

Ed Sheeran is best known for his smiley personality and this song does put up a smile on your face. Sheeran refers to this song as “walking down the aisle song“. In the lyrics, Sheeran reflects on “getting older and fidelity and love in a fairly conventional context“.

6) John Legend – Love Me Now

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NmCFY1oYDeM

The music video is directed by Nabil Elderkin and depicts couples from various cultures expressing their love to each other. It also features Legend with his wife Chrissy Teigen and daughter Luna Simone Stephens.

7) Dierks Bentley – Come A Little Closer

Here’s a little country song for lovers who enjoy this genre. This Dierks Bentley diddy is from his 2005 album “Modern Day Drifter” and Taste of Country reports that Bentley was 30 years old at that time.

8) Zayn Maik And Taylor Swift – I don’t Wanna Live Forever

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7F37r50VUTQ

Zayn Malik and Taylor Swift released a music video for their duet “I Don’t Wanna Live Forever“. The song is also featured in the sequel “Fifty Shades Darker“.

9) Ariana Grande – Into You

Ariana Grande’s upbeat hit song “Into You” is about love, but it’s more of a dance hit. So you can pull your partner close and have a slow couple dance on this song.

10) Ellie Goulding – Love Me Like You do

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AJtDXIazrMo

“Love Me like You Do” is a song recorded by English singer Ellie Goulding for the soundtrack to the film Fifty Shades of Grey (2015). “Love Me like You Do” is a mid-tempo electropop power ballad, with instrumentation consisting of massive synths and crushing drums. Lyrically similar to the film’s theme, the song talks about the uncontrollable feeling of falling in love and being seduced by someone whose touch leaves her begging for more, even when it hurts.

This Is How You Stay In Love With Your Long Distance Relationship

Whenever we think about long distance relationships, we get jitters. No matter how much we love our better half, but staying away from that special one just wrenches your heart and think about all the impossible things already. Well, in this fast-paced world, we end up staying from each other; be it love, friendship, or family.

But now, don’t worry guys! We have a few tips which you can use and make your LD relationship work out like a boss. Staying in a long distance relationship is really not for faint hearts, but if you really like someone so much, that his or her happiness matters more to you, you’ll let that person achieve their goals in any part of the country. In fact, in the days where smartphones and technologies exist, LDs are no more of a bigger deal now! Imagine the days when there were ravens and pigeons to send a small text of love. Scary, right?

So now, if your loved one is going somewhere for a while, just smile and let them go. Make the hell lot of use of this tech world, and stay in touch. But don’t forget to make some efforts and make your relationship work! 😉

Avoid A Lot Of Communication:

First thing and foremost, a lot of communication might make him or she feel smothering. Don’t do that. Adjusting in a new place might be difficult for your loved one; all you can do is just make them feel good about themselves and give some time to adapt to the new life.

Make Some Ground Rules For Your Relationship:

Yes! Before your loved one leaves for a new place, sit together and discuss a few set of rules, to avoid unnecessary fights in the future. These rules can make things clear between you two, giving rise to a healthy long distance relationship.

Grab This Opportunity:

This opportunity is surely a one-time investment. Come on, your loved one won’t go all the time for a long distance one. Though the period might differ, this will just make your relationship stronger. Don’t forget, guys, if you are in love, distance doesn’t matter!

Sexting Comes In The Picture:

You’ll start missing every bit of your relationship. Be it being together, or bedroom memories. This is where sexting comes handy! It’s time to let your loved one know how much you miss her or him, and stay in touch with a dash of sexy talks.

Make Small Visits To Each Other:

Surprise her or him, and just see how much your love grows. This one really works. Even if your loved one is far away, sitting and busy with life, it’s time to pay a surprise visit, and plan a small holiday together. Hust, you and your loved one. Isn’t that adorable and romantic?

Do Similar Things:

Always keep your loved one updated with all those little things you do, and don’t let them realize how far you are from each other. This will not only make your relationship stronger but also give you make the other person release that he or she is not out of the mind if it’s out of the sight.

Stay Honest:

Yes! If someone is away from you and still making an effort to make things work between you, do not cheat! This is where your relationship takes a notch higher than anyone else’s!

Stay Positive:

This difficult phase of your life shall pass soon, and trust us guys if you pass the stage of a long distance, no force can stop you guys from being in love with each other.

Enjoy guys! This doesn’t happen with everyone, and if you are going through one, we wish you luck for all the efforts you are putting in your relationship. Keep smiling! This phase shall pass, soon!

Do’s And Don’ts For A Tinder Date

Tinder dates can be pretty nerve wrecking. You have no idea what to expect yet somehow end up imagining all sorts of scenarios of how the date should or will go. You may get over excited or be so nervous that it causes the date to go downhill. It’s not your fault, after all you don’t know much about the other person with your two-dimensional experience through the Tinder app. Now you’re just sitting somewhere and you open the app, you check out a few people and swipe someone right. Well, the story starts there and you have yourself a date. A date that can turn into the best decisions of your life or even your worst nightmare. Trying to have “the perfect date” actually ruins the date. A Perfect date doesn’t exist. But there are a lot of other small things you could do and some that you should NEVER to make the date worthwhile. So, here are some of the Do’s and Don’ts for a Tinder date.

Don’ts:

Telling them your sob story

Never get into a conversation where you tell them about the safe in your house that contains tons of cash. Talking about your secrets or deep shit is a big NO NO for your tinder date. It will always give out the wrong impression about you.

Don’t ask boring questions

The part when you guys match and start chatting is where you ask “So, what do you do?” “Where are you from?” and not on your first date. Asking those questions through texting seems fine but it becomes interrogative on a date.

Being too nice

It might get creepy after a while of being too nice. Or you may be taken for granted. Either ways, be chill and let the date flow. You can’t control everything. You’re not there to make sure they have a great time, you’re there so you can have a great date with that person.

Don’t be touchy

Being too close and touchy can make the other person awkwardly uncomfortable. Learn their vibe, give both yourselves time to be comfortable and the make a move. If you straight up start touching them, even if in friendly ways, it comes off as sexual. People, at times, love their space and need be stay that way. So, take note!

Do’s:

Pick a place that you’re familiar with

When you choose a café or restaurant that you often go gives you a sense of comfort. Being comfortable is must, if things go south you’ll know what to do. You’ll know what next to do after, what places are nearby and so on. It a major plus point for you.

Create your own vibe

Don’t wait for the other one to start talking, be the first one to create a great aura. Many things can go wrong, the food can be tasteless or the music too loud. But make sure your presence is radiant and the other person enjoys the date.

Get to know each other

As clichés as it sounds and most common, it is the most important aspect for any kind of date. You have to be open about yourself, be true, be honest, also keep the conversation light. Don’t bring up any serious topics and try avoiding opening old wounds.

Plan the dessert in some other place

By doing so, you get to spend some more time with your date. Perhaps walking to the other place that gives you time to talk about more stuff and hit it off. It also shows efforts which are almost always appreciate or even rewarded. 😉

Tell us the most special part of your first tinder date or may be the worst experience you had on a tinder date in the comment section below! 😀

7 Movies To Watch With Your Loved One While Enjoying This Romantic Weather

Isn’t the weather just romantic? The cloudy sky, cold breeze, the damp atmosphere, everything about monsoon is romantic. You either feel like eating all the hot stuff in the kitchen or simply just cuddle up under a blanket in your bed. You can say this weather is perfect for ‘Netflix and Chill’ ;). We’ve got a movie list prepped up for you to binge watch it with your other half, special someone, your honey boo or whatever sweet adorable names you’ve got for them, being all snuggled up and simply enjoy these movies in the rains.

1) 50 first dates

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H1SVxJZTgI4

50 First Dates is a warm yet funny love story. It is about a man who falls for a girl who suffers from short-term memory loss. She remembers only the days before her accident and she waked up believing it’s her birthday every day because she cannot remember anything beyond that day. So, this guy tries to woo her every single day, prays that she falls in love with him for that day and most importantly, he loves her without any conditions.

2) P.S. I Love You

This movie might make you shed a few tears but is surely worth watching. It is about a young widow who starts her life afresh with the help of ten notes that her late husband has left for her.

3) A Walk To Remember

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R3b19svqbls

It is a heart-wrenching yet beautiful story of a guy who falls in love with a girl who has a terminal disease, and how the couple spends their last days together. P.S. – Keep a tissue box handy.

4) Shakespeare In Love

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gk1rTKB6ZF8

This movie depicts Shakespeare as a struggling playwright/actor who is out of ideas and searching for a muse. That’s when he meets Viola de Lesseps, an aspiring stage actress who loves Shakespeare’s plays but must pose as a man to follow her dream because women aren’t allowed to act. The two have an instant connection, and the comedy of errors that follows ends up inspiring Romeo and Juliet. Again, this love story isn’t true, but it’ll make you see Shakespeare’s most famous play in a whole new light.

5) Love Aaj Kal

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dLH1gmk9_iE

A couple part their ways because they move to different places to pursue their career. But they say it right, love knows no boundaries, and the distance actually makes them realise their feelings for each other.

6) The Notebook

This is one of the movies you can watch again and again with your partner and still not feel bored. The story is set in 1940s where a young and not-so-affluent man falls in love with a rich woman. Soon, they are separated because of their social differences. What happens next? Well, you need to watch the movie for that.

7) About Time

From the man behind Love Actually, Notting Hill and Bridget Jones’s Diary comes this uplifting flick about a young man who realizes he has the ability to time travel. A wonderful reminder to cherish each and every day (and also that Rachel McAdams is amazing in everything).

Please tell us your favorite romantic movie to watch with your partner in the comment section below <3